Why Do I Keep Repeating This Pattern?

If you keep finding yourself in the same patterns, it’s not because you’re broken. It’s often because something in you is still protecting you.

Shadow work and inner child healing help us meet the parts of ourselves that formed in moments when we didn’t have full choice. Parts shaped by childhood trauma, attachment wounds, and the subtle messages we absorbed about love, safety, worth, and belonging. And sometimes, it goes even deeper than our own story. Transgenerational trauma and family system dynamics can live in the nervous system like an invisible “rulebook” we never consciously agreed to, yet we keep repeating.

That’s why you can be intelligent, self-aware, and deeply spiritual, and still find yourself stuck in the same cycles. Same relationship dynamics. Same fears. Same self-sabotage. Same overgiving. Same shutting down. The unconscious isn’t logical. It’s protective. It’s patterned. And until we bring it to light, it quietly runs the show.

In our work together, we don’t just talk about the problem. We work at the level where the pattern actually lives.

We blend a systemic lens from Marriage and Family Therapy, so we can understand how family-of-origin dynamics, roles, and relational blueprints shape your choices today. We integrate a humanistic, Gestalt-informed approach, so we can track what’s happening in you in real time, with compassion and honesty, not judgment. And we bring in somatic practices and nervous system regulation, because trauma is not only a story you remember, it’s also a physiological imprint your body carries. When the body feels safer, your mind becomes clearer, your boundaries become stronger, and your choices start to change naturally.

This work is powerful because it helps you recognize what’s been unconscious. It helps you understand why you do what you do, why you react the way you react, and why certain cycles keep repeating even when you “know better.”

As Carl Jung said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

If you’re ready to do this with support, I’d love to walk with you.

Book an individual appointment and let’s create a plan that fits your unique nervous system, history, and goals.

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If you’re not ready for therapy yet, but you feel the pull to begin, you can start gently on your own.

Get The Shadow Work Journal and begin the journey privately, at your own pace. And when you’re ready, you can bring the journal into therapy and we’ll use it as a bridge for deeper healing.

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